So you’re thinking about getting married and you’re going through this decision process. Maybe your own, maybe the one that we’re working through on this website. What exactly is it that you’re deciding to do here?
Is it as simple as, let’s get married? Nope- it’s more complex than that. Let’s talk about it.
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For Better Or For Worse
What are you actually deciding when you choose to get married to somebody? What I want you to think about is this simple statement:
Let’s take this a step further. What if the way they are got worse?
What if they started doing something you didn’t like or they stopped doing something you did like? What if the person got fat? What if they started drinking? Or maybe you’re a partier. What if they stopped drinking and stopped partying?
What if they wanted to quit their job? What if they wanted to move away from your family and near their family? What if they wanted to switch careers?
What if this was the best version of them you would ever get?
So really what you’re deciding in a nutshell is- can you live with a commitment, a lifelong commitment that you’re going to make to this person and be happy?
Whether you figure that out on your own using your own methods or you use this decision process on my website, this is going to get you deep in the weeds with yourself.
Make A Decision
During this process you’re going to be (hopefully) honestly asking and answering questions about yourself that you need to communicate to your partner. And in discussion after that we’re going to be sitting down with your partner and you’re going to be getting deep in the weeds with them.
You’re going to get dirty. You’re going to find out things you don’t want. You’re going to find out things that you don’t like about them. You’re going to find out things you don’t like about yourself, but really what you’re deciding is can you make a commitment to this person, live with that and be happy. Because you don’t want to go around life being unhappy just because somebody thought you needed to get married.
So let’s get going together in this process. Like I said, we’re going to get our hands dirty and we’re going to figure out what it is that’s important to you about marriage.
Leave me a comment. Let me know if you’re having problems figuring out what it is exactly you’re deciding. Let me know if the person that you’re with is making it easy for you to decide because they’re just so phenomenal.
I love hearing positive stories, it’s fantastic! The world is what you make it. The world is beautiful, just like my wife.
That’s all for now. Thanks for reading. There’ll be more.